I'm a fighter. That means if there's a cause I believe in, or an argument worth making, I will do so. It also means I get clear about what I want and relentlessly ask for it if need be. Over time I've improved my ability to identify circumstances that merit a good fight. Nonetheless, I may pay a price for my actions and attitudes. That's okay. I've fought the good fight. I've been true to myself.
Yet I see that sometimes (perhaps even most of the time) I will fight when I'm the only one doing so. I get it into my head that others are pitted against me and equally willing to fight. Such "opposition" often doesn't exist. There may be little to no interest in the issue. Or me and my concerns are the furthest things from anyone's mind.
So there's no fight. There's no need for me to fight. So I've learned not to do so. And on those occasions, I gain a bit more peace of mind. That, plus the likelihood I'll direct my attention to individual interests and concerns. That's a whole lot more productive and satisfying than fighting.